What are the creative ways you share your love? We asked couples to show us how they express and experience intimacy in their relationship.
The process of filming with these love birds leading up to Valentine’s Day was heart-warming. Although we list 20 ways to say I love you, Kelly and I realized there’s a few missing from the list that we practice each week together in our own relationship:
1) I TREASURE YOU
For the past several years, we have been hiding a golden coin around the house. She may find it under her tea mug, or I might flip to a page in the book I’m reading, and there’s the golden coin! This small surprise has come to mean “I treasure you”, and every time I find it equates to a burst of positive feelings. And then it’s my turn to hide it for her. I can’t tell you how many times this token of affection has transformed my day. It’s another way to say I love you, and has been a special source of wonder in our relationship. If you like it, by all means try it with your partner!
2) THE TOOTHBRUSH TRICK
We all have our rituals as we get ready for bed. We’ve tried essential oil diffusion to relax us, and a number of other ways to cap off the night. None has stuck like our “toothbrush trick”. Imagine entering the bathroom and seeing your toothbrush already freshly pasted with toothpaste–you don’t have to squeeze the last little bit from the tube, clearly someone has paid you an altruistic act. It’s so small and you might think it’s silly, but it makes all the difference in improving my mood when I am trying to prepare myself for sleep. What are other ways you can lighten the load of your lover? You’d be surprised how simple little things make a big difference!
3) GET WEIRD TOGETHER
Sing a funny song in the kitchen, invent your own language, and invite your partner to PLAY. Couples do strange things when no one is watching, and apparently there’s major health benefits when we teach each other to be more whacky and playful. Kelly and I have noticed how life gets stale when we take things too seriously. Also, set a spark by doing new and exciting things together. Go skydiving, learn improv comedy, go out of your comfort zone as a couple! It’s the best way to rekindle the passionate love that releases dopamine. Companionate love is warm and comforting, but a dose of passion is also what we all need.
Kelly and I used to co-sponsor a love parade every Valentine’s Day. We’d walk through downtown on our stilts together with a whole tribe of friends. Perhaps it was that exciting peak experience we were after!
Let’s strive for less chocolate and more connection this Valentine’s Day, and please share a story with us about your unique ways of sharing love!